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iS IT REALLY TRUE THAT LIKE 70% OF WOMEN DO NOT ORGASM FROM NORMAL INTERCOURSE? I FIND THAT TO BE A VERY DEPRESSING FACT IF IT IS TRUE. I AM SINGLE AND HAVE HAD 3 PARTNERS THAT DID ORGASIM VIA INTERCOURSE. ONE OF WHICH DID SOMETHINMES AND OTHER TIMES DID NOT.
I HAD ONE OTHER PARTNER THAT NEVER DID.
BEING SINGLE IT IS KIND OF A DEPRESSING THING TO HEAR CAUSE I WANT TO SATISFY A WOMAN. i KNOW THAT THERE ARE OTHER WAYS BUT I THINK ALL GUYS AND PROBABYL ALL GIRLS WANT TO SHARE THAT ORGASM VIA INTERCOURSE. TO ME IT IS BEST WHEN YOU ARE BOTH ABLE TO ORGASM RIGHT AT THE SAME TIME. I HAVE DONE THAT BEFORE AND IT IS THE BEST FEELIGN IN THE WORLD.
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
Hi Bob:
I don't believe that percentage (70%??). I think most women do orgasm. The ones who do not are the ones speaking out about this. And the ones who do...Well, they don't speak out 'cause there's nothing to complain about:-)
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
How old are you Bob? I have talked with many couples/friends. Most women do not orgasm during intercourse unless they are being stimulated at the same time. Its wonderful if it does happen. There is the whole lovers dance that begins with foreplay, and there are many ways to bring a woman to orgasm which is part of the whole dance. Have you read the Tantra or Kama Sutra?
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
I agree with PhillyLady ... a woman's clitoris needs to be stimulated ... and actually there's not much in the way of nerve endings in the vagina. Her vagina is not like your penis, but her clitoris is more similar. You can achieve orgasm together, most easily, if she is stimulated enough to be really close (foreplay or oral sex), then you enter her and it works pretty well that way.
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
Well my last girlfriend did not care much for foreplay i nthe sence that she did not care for me to go down on her. She liked som stimulation via kissing and fondling but nto a whole lot. She kind-a like to jsut get to the sex part. So we normally just kind of did.
Most times she did orgasm but not every time. I worried about it but she said it was ok and that she was not goign to every time and that was ok. That it would only be a problem if she did not orgasm the majority of time.
So things were good and we found ways to extend sex so that she would have an orgasm almost every time. I am just worried about meeting new women and goign throguh the worry abotu not pleasign them and what not.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by PhillyLady on August 12, 2003 at 11:08:48:
I agree it's probably not that high. But, I would bet the vast majority of woman who may have had an orgasm during sex, rarely do every time, or even most times for that matter.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 11:39:48:
Well, I don't know what your girlfriend's deal is, but she sure is missing out!!!! That is, unless you're really rough (which I've experienced before ... ouch) and then it wouldn't be fun for her ... but whatever floats her boat. I wouldn't sweat about other women ... most women (ladies, back me up here) love it!!!
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by Jon on August 12, 2003 at 11:59:26:
What I noticed for myself was that I could not climax
during intercourse if an emotional connection wasn't
being felt (on either side). When it just became sexual,
(and it was I as well that sometimes went there!), I
couldn't climax without outside stimulation. I have
female friends though that climax either way!, so I
suppose it just depends on the person.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by Jon on August 12, 2003 at 11:59:26:
Hi Jon:
It could be also that his partners are young and not yet in tune with their bodies. I would bet that this is a strong possibility.
I have a feeling that he also is young. Therefore, there could be a lack of experience with both partners. If that's the case, then everything will improve over time. Practice makes perfect...
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
Actually, most women do not orgasm internally.
In case you don't know already, for really wonderful sensations to get close to or even achieve orgasm for the woman, thrusting is USELESS. It's more of a rocking motion or some other type of girations(sp?) best achieved by the woman being on top. She needs to get up there and really explore around with different movements, angles, rhythms, speeds, so on... which is extremely pleasurable for the man as well. While doing all that it's then very easy access to stimulate her externally (herself or you). The feelings and sensations are outrageous if you stimulate the nipples, clitoris, anus (any combination of) at the same time as being inside her.
I'm driven most wild by mouth on nipple and anal stimulation while he's inside me. wheeewww, gotta go.
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
I can only tell you about my own experiences and that of many many friends!
We do not orgasm necessarily with intercourse. Many women, me included, have a clitoris which is slightly off course and the only way to orgasm is by stimulation of the clitoris.
There will be times when during intercourse, if he person is right, and everything else is right, that there will be a wonderful feeling, but this is not necessarily orgasm. It is just the feelings you get from having intercourse with the one you want. For orgasm to happen with some women, the clitoris must be stimulated and with some women it is not in the right position for this to happen during intercourse.
I myself stimulate myself or get my partner to stimulate me during sexual play. I then orgasm and he penetrates me throughout, before and after.
I have never had an orgasm through intercourse without some sort of clitoris stimulation.
Maz
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
I don't know about other women. I do know that I personally have rarely had a problem having an orgasm if I want one. I don't think women should hold men (no pun intended) responsible for their orgasms!!! Certainly no man(or woman) wants that responsibility. Furthermore, if a woman feels empowered enough to take on this responsibility, she will find a way to have orgasms. Sometimes we make things harder than they should be, but then again, sometimes that's a good thing...;-)
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
I have an orgasm every time my husband and I make love. He knows my body well and knows how to make me feel good. But then again I have always had an orgasm every time I have ever had sex. I think alot of it has to do with the mind.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by mpb on August 12, 2003 at 11:35:32:
and actually there's not much in the way of nerve endings in the vagina.
How about the G spot? Thats highly stimulating.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by Zara on August 12, 2003 at 21:13:33:
I just agree with so much people have already said. Women, for the most part, are responsible for their own orgasms, it is very mental, stimulation of the nipples and anus at the right time can drive a woman crazy and being on top is sometimes the only way to experience orgasm for a lot of women. You can also reach a hand down and manually stimulate the clitoris while you are having intercourse.
The simultaneous climax is a nice event to say the least but, but as a goal I don't think is the main point. Frankly, I haven't cared much about that at all since I was a lot younger. Surely we all just want both parties to be satisfied in the end.,
Also, foreplay, foreplay, and more foreplay. Anticipation is a wonderful thing. And since the G-spot was mentioned I'll tell you what I've been thinking ever since the original post. Learn how to give her a G-spot orgasm. There is no sexual skill more awesome to me as a woman than a partner knowing how to look for that G-spot and unselfishly providing that incredible experience. After all, the tango is for 2. Imagine how eagar she'll be to please you after you've given her such pleasure. If you don't know how to do it, just do some research.
I don't think so few women are having orgasms. Some just have to learn how to get the stimulation they need.
In Reply to: Re: Ah, gee - I mean "G"!! WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE... posted by June.one on August 12, 2003 at 22:18:14:
I think a lot of this is about self exploration and discovery, and if one is aware of their body and how to pleasure themselves. Makes it much more achievable with a partner, if you are already aware of what you like, and what turns you on.
The "G" spot orgasm is way much more intense than a clit orgasm for me. I had my first a few months ago, and have never looked back. I didnt know how pleasurable it could be. I mean, I still like clit orgasms, but G spot is the ULTIMATE!
Man, the earth doesnt just move after one of those, it rocks! lol.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by my thoughts on August 12, 2003 at 11:32:03:
What do you mean by being stimulated? Moving penis in and out seems like a stimulation to me. Could you be more specific?
In Reply to: Re: Ah, gee - I mean "G"!! WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE... posted by Maria on August 12, 2003 at 23:07:56:
OH, yes. It's just in the last year that I discovered the internal sensations, including G-spot, and the clit alone is just not so great anymore.
In Reply to: yep.. posted by female who knows on August 13, 2003 at 00:25:56:
Hmmm, not so great? Really? I still find clit-style orgasms great, but if you were to compare a "G" spot orgasm with a Clit Orgasm, then "G" spot would be like the "rolls royce" of orgasms.
I dont particularly care if I orgasm, lying down, being on top, sideways, backwards, standing, bare ass, as long as I "G"! lol.
There should be more info. available to women about just how amazing G spot really is. I do find though you have to let yourself go to really experience the "G". Really relax, and then it seems to come naturally. Most important to let what happens, be ok!
In Reply to: Re: Agree Somewhat.. posted by Maria on August 13, 2003 at 04:16:19:
Could one of you explain how to start experiencing G-spot orgasms? I have clit ones but not G-spot ones. A long time ago I had amazing sensations (but not orgasms) while thrusting and I assume that was the G-spot being stimulated. It's now almost 20 years later, I have 2 children, and I don't know if the spot is now numb, or if my husband has a different shape, but I never ever get that feeling anymore.
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Genvy on August 13, 2003 at 09:02:31:
When I tried to find my G spot, I was reminded of my concern that my organs seem to be 'falling out of me'. I had to push them up out of the way to feel anything. My mother and grandmother have had to have their pelvic walls repaired. I'm 45 and have had 4 children.
I worried that this tissue has possibly made my G spot insensitive. If it has, can anything be done?
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by R. on August 13, 2003 at 00:19:37:
Clitoral stimulation. Nipples are excellent, too.
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Genvy on August 13, 2003 at 09:02:31:
Hi Genvy (interesting name :)
I only started exp;eriencing it with my partner. I have never felt it myself. Sorry, I am not a sexpert :)so I really dont know how to advise you.He was the one that went exploring, and found it.
The only difference this time, was that I let myself really go, and didnt get scared. Sometimes when He was arousing me on the G spot, it would feel like I wanted to urinate, and I would tell him to stop. I read up on this, and apparently if you go with it, (you wont urinate) so I did, and had the most powerful, earth shattering orgasm of my life.
I thought I had died, and gone to heaven. Actually, I think I may have left my body for a short time, it was that intense.
Get your husband or partner to help you. I found that using my vibrator on my clit, whilst he massaged my G spot did it for me also. as well as oral sex and G spot massage is mind blowing! it was like merging into nirvana, ecstasy, samadhi, bliss, heaven, for a few moments, when the "G" spot orgasm exploded. I'm being totally serious.
For me, a G spot orgasm is akin to having a spiritual experience. Actually, it sparked two powerful spiritual experiences for me, during G orgasm.
nuff said. :)
In Reply to: yep.. posted by female who knows on August 13, 2003 at 00:25:56:
Did you discover the G spot on your own or did your partner do it? I feel a bit weird to explore it for myself. Its all that squishy, fleshy feeling. Even when I insert a tampon, I hate that feeling of squishy flesh, as I insert it inside. Makes me cringe! :)
In Reply to: My pelvic wall collasping? posted by Wondering on August 13, 2003 at 10:20:46:
I am not sure what you mean by "your organs may be falling out,I had to push them up out of the way to feel anything"
I know you can do the pelvic floor exercises which is wonderful to strengthen the pelvic floor muscle, and also increases the intensity of orgasms.
Do you know how to do the pelvic floor exercises?
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Genvy on August 13, 2003 at 09:02:31:
Walt
Does childbirth lessen the intensity of G spot orgasms? Such as Genvy in her previous post above,saying that she doesnt know if the g spot is now numb, after having 2 children.
In Reply to: Re: yep..to "female who knows" posted by Maria on August 14, 2003 at 01:30:10:
Yes. I read about it on some site -- where it is, what it feels like. So, I went looking and there it was. It's not even hiding. I don't like feeling around in there either -- the squishy feeling bothers me, too. But, I made myself do it. It sure doesn't bother men, huh?
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Maria on August 14, 2003 at 01:24:34:
I read, too, how the bladder is right above the wall of the g-spot so it's better to hold it if you have to urinate because it applies pressure from above making the orgasm more intense. I found it to be true and even though you have to urinate, as you get into the sex the need to urinate diminishes.
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Maria on August 14, 2003 at 01:24:34:
Wow - that truly sounds amazing, which is why I have G-envy. I must have a G-spot because of the feelings I used to have, which, by the way, were only during the first couple of thrusts. Then the feelings went away and numbed out - but I could see the potential for a terrific orgasm. I'm awaiting Dr. Stoll's respose also (thanks for asking him!) never having found any literature about the difference in G-spot sensations with different partners and children. I'm thinking that -perhaps it's not just childbirth, because I never felt it since that one boyfriend. Maybe it has to do with the guy's shape?
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Genvy on August 13, 2003 at 09:02:31:
Wow, I never thought of myself as a G-spot person. Thanks - need all the confidence I can get! I never experienced this wonderful thing until this year and it just so happened I was with a man who is apparently quite experienced in giving oral and manual stimulation to cause this experience. He knew EXACTLY what to do - I really am so amazed that every time we've been together he is very intent on that happening (maybe good for his ego?).
BTW, I've had 2 children and have learned what I need to do for the typical orgasm. I don't know if I'd have had these G-spot experiences without the touch of an expert.
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Maria on August 14, 2003 at 01:24:34:
I hope I'm not intruding as this seems to be a much female thread. When I practice oral sex on my wife she gets to a point of ectasy and then wants me to stop. I´m sure it's not an orgasm because when she gets one I get a feeling like she climaxes and then relaxes satisfied (I hguess and I hope)So she doesn't want to continue, and when I ask her afterwrds the reason she says that she's geting to a point where she feels "too much intensity". Maria, do you think she's on a way to G spot orgasm? I've heard about the G spot but never actually discovered one or been told by any girlfriend that she's found it. So my other quiestions to you are: If she's not having an orgasm when I practice oral sex on her then what is it she's feeling? And why does she want me to stop? How can i find her G spot? I hope to hear your response. I have asked her but she's very shy/repressed about expressing her feelings and sexual desires.
In Reply to: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 12, 2003 at 08:14:11:
Where is this G-spot located exactly? Can somebody tell me or temm me where to llok on the net or what not to find it.
I would liek to knwo for the future.
In Reply to: g-spot and bladder posted by female on August 14, 2003 at 10:04:43:
Yeah, thats the trick. The sex partners that I have had, everytime they stimulated my G spot, I would get that urge to urinate.
It was only after I was reading up on the subject of the G spot did they recommend that even if you get the urge whilst being G spot stimulated, you wont urinate. And I went with it, and oh god!!! Am I glad I did! And no urine! lol
My husband said that the G Spot feels like a bump, with a smooth side, and the other side has ridges on it. I have never felt it, so its good tohave an idea of whats in there. :)
In Reply to: Re: yep..to "female who knows" posted by female on August 14, 2003 at 09:57:43:
Yeah, men seem to love it, but I dont. Thank god THEY love it, hey?! lol.
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Alex B on August 14, 2003 at 11:59:20:
Alex B
Are you sure she is not represssing the expression 0f the orgasm, because from what you are saying it sounds like she is having an rogasm, but not necessarily a G orgasm. the contraction, and then the release. A G is much more intense.
You really owe it to her and yourself to discover the G spot for her. Its amazing. I had a G spot orgasm about a month ago, and it was so intense, I literally screamed. But it was involuntary. Hope you understand what I mean. :) My husband got a shock, and looked up and asked if he had hurt me. I had a big grin on my face, and said "no, I just came"
lol.
I will write more later. I have to run, I am at work, and its gettig busy.
In Reply to: Re: For Maria and all the G-spot people posted by Genvy on August 14, 2003 at 10:15:48:
Hi Genvy
You dont have to have intercourse to experience a G. I havent ever experienced an orgasm during intercourse, or stimulation of my g spot during intercourse, but there are other ways to climax; foreplay, oral sex, vibrator, g spot stimulation, etc.
So get your husband/partner to experiment, and find your G spot,and to lightly stimulate it. You may find you get that urge to urinate. I always would tell them to stop at that time, as I was afraid I would urinate. But after reading, that this is a normal reaction from G spot stimulation, I got brave, and went with the feeling, and experienced my first. I just didnt think an orgasm could get any better than a clit orgams
It is addictive though, cos once you have one, like the previous poster said, a regular clit orgasm is just well,'regular', although it is still great. But, hey, its better than nothing, right? :)
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by BOB on August 14, 2003 at 12:06:49:
Hi Bob:
Here is a link for some information on the G spot.
In Reply to: Re: For all the G-spot people posted by Maria on August 14, 2003 at 02:41:21:
Hi, Maria.
It may move around a bit and the stretching out of the tissues, which never really go back to the original following vaginal delivery, can make it harder to find.
I do not believe that it's sensitivity is altered, though.
Walt
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by PhillyLady on August 14, 2003 at 20:50:35:
Thanks, PhillyLady.
Namaste`
Walt
In Reply to: Re: For Maria and all the G-spot people posted by Maria on August 14, 2003 at 20:05:02:
Can someone find her own G spot and stimulate it?
I still am mystified about my past experience of the pleasurable feeling during thrusting and would love to feel it again. I think a lot of women wish they could enjoy intercourse the way men do - just thrust and come.
In Reply to: Re: For Maria and all the G-spot people posted by Genvy on August 15, 2003 at 16:41:08:
There is a way to do it, D.I.Y if you are very comfortable with exploring your body. I personally, am not comfortable with feeling around for it. Its a feeling I just cant get use to.
IF you are not comfortable exploring that area,I know that there are vibrators that u could use that WILL stimulate your G spot. I think the ultimate is both clit stimulation and G spot stimulation. Those have been the most awesome orgasms! I havent tried any vibrators designed specifically for the G spot, but plan to go and buy one that does. I did visit an adult shop with a girlfriend of mine who had previously worked in an adult shop, and she told me what was good, and what wasnt.
There were so many good ones to choose from. There is one I have my heart set on getting. :) But I especially want one that stimulates the G spot, and that particular vibrator looks like it's designed to hit that spot.
P.S. That pleasurable feeling that you mentioned during his thrusting, was it an orgasm, or just felt pleasant with no climax?
"I think a lot of women wish they could enjoy intercourse the way men do - just thrust and come.
No truer words were ever spoken! :)
Maria.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by PhillyLady on August 14, 2003 at 20:50:35:
Thanks for this article, PhillyLady. Very informative.
There was a paragraph that I wanted to make mention of.
"The G-Spot is very real! I have a slightly above average size penis (9"), and women have told me I was one of the few men that reached the spot! So, I assume if you have a long enough penis you'll ring the bell!"
* * * * *
So the age old question persists. DOES SIZE MATTER???? If a larger size penis is more likely to hit the G spot, then, yes it does.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by Maria on August 15, 2003 at 20:14:10:
Hi Maria:
If I may read between the lines on this one, I think the fellow was just letting us know that he's 9 inches long. In other words, he was bragging:-) The so-called G spot is not 9 inches inside a woman. Therefore, 9 inches is not necessary in order to activate it.
Moreover, and this is just my deduction from having read several references, the G spot is either the beginning (root) or ending of the "clitoral path" via a system of nerves. That would make the two interconnected.
In Reply to: Re: To Genvy posted by Maria on August 15, 2003 at 19:57:34:
That was a good suggestion - can't believe I never thought of it. I will also look for such a vibrator.
The pleasurable feeling I had was definitely not an orgasm as it was 1-3 fleeting but very strong, exciting and rather shocking kinds of sensations only during the thrusting, as though a very sensitive area was being touched. It never was more than that, then it would "numb out" and I would never achieve orgasm during intercourse.
In recent years, every time my husband found the area that I know is my G spot, it was actually a very uncomfortable and even irritating feeling. I can't imagine how it could improve and feel good. It's been awhile, but I remember feeling pressure as though I needed to pee. Definitely not a turn on!
I would love to be able to train myself to enjoy it and get it stimulated to the point of orgasm during intercourse.
In Reply to: Re: To Maria posted by Genvy on August 16, 2003 at 08:53:44:
That 1-3 fleeting sensation sounds like your G spot was being stimulated. Not sure why it would numb out tho.
Have you ever experienced an orgasm during intercourse?
I have never experienced an orgasm during intercourse. And to be honest, it really doesnt bother me any more. I am just grateful that I can orgasm at all, as there are some women who cant or never have experienced an orgasm. Unbelievable!
That sensation when the G spot is being stimulated is rather weird. If I hadnt have gone research9ing the info., I would never have let my husband explore it any further, and never experienced what a "G" felt like. So glad now I did!
"In recent years, every time my husband found the area that I know is my G spot, it was actually a very uncomfortable and even irritating feeling. I can't imagine how it could improve and feel good. It's been awhile, but I remember feeling pressure as though I needed to pee. Definitely not a turn on!"
It depends. I didnt find it a turn off, only because I was already quite aroused, so it was ok for him to persevere with it. If I wasnt aroused, then I wouldnt let him, as it can be slightly uncomfortable. Some women find it pleasurable, minus the sensation to urinate. I wonder why some women feel pleasure, and others feel this uncomfortable sensation, on having it stimulated????
Why dont you try going with it? And just trying to relax into it. Maybe if you read up on other women who also experience this uncomfortable sensation, but were successful in achieving a G.
One other thing I wanted to make mention. If you decide to explore the G spot with your husband, try and have clitoral stimulation as well as G stimulation, at the same time.. That is the best way that I have found to experience a very intense orgasm. Simultaneous stimulation.
In Reply to: Re: WOMEN AND ORGASM- IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT MOST DON'T? posted by dd on August 12, 2003 at 13:14:36:
"What I noticed for myself was that I could not climax
during intercourse if an emotional connection wasn't
being felt (on either side)."
I do think there are so many variables to it, dd. I think more so for women than for men. its much more simple for a man to orgasm; thrust up and down, and JERONIMO!
Women tend to be more emotionally wired when it comes to climaxing during sex, and then there are others for whom it doesnt make a difference. They still can orgasm without much of an emotional connection,although I think these women are the exception to the rule. And a lucky exception for them too. :)
I think its just highly individual when it comes to sex.
In Reply to: Re: To Genvy posted by Maria on August 17, 2003 at 00:32:35:
Thank you, I will try just that!
No, I've never experienced an orgasm during intercourse unless, of course, my clit was being stimulated at the same time. When that happened, it wasn't as good as having it when not having intercourse, because when there is something inside of you the contractions aren't as intense - the squeezing doesn't go as far because there's something there. Yet I didn't feel that way when I had those fleeting sensations - I thought if that continued and the orgasm was similar to THAT feeling, it would be great. If that is what men experience during intercourse I surely have penis envy too.
In Reply to: Re: To Maria posted by Genvy on August 18, 2003 at 09:46:12:
Hi again Genvy
Now you got penis envy???? lol! Dont go there, girl!
I have often found it much harder to orgasm during intercourse, and for exactly the reasons above you mentioned.
I will say though that when I used a vibrator, and during the orgasm, the vaginal contractions were VERY strong, and not at all weak. I did have the vibrator inside of me. I dont normally notice the contractions so strong duriing orgasm, but with the vibrator inside me, I really did notice a big difference.
I was stimulating my clitorus at the same time, and that orgasm wasnt a G. You will definitely know when you have a G!
If you do decide to use a vibrator, you may notice the difference in the vaginal contractions/squeezing.
But, I dont think you should place much importance on how strong the contractions are. To me, that doesnt have any bearing on how intense or pleasurable the orgasm is going to be. The contractions are just an interesting side effect.
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